My dad has been stalking me via facebook for months now. He keeps sending me friend requests and I keep rejecting it. Totally not taking the hint, he sends me an e-mail today letting me know he sent me a friend request and that I should accept it. I’m not sure what possessed me to do it, but I finally just said ” ahh screw it, whatever” and I accepted. I suppose I figured we have been on civil terms as of late, what’s so wrong about a silly friend request on a silly social networking site?
No sooner did I accept the request and go to his profile, that I was reminded exactly why I had spent the last two years not speaking to him. Right there on his page was a photo shopped picture of him next to a picture of Mena Suvari, clad in a skimpy bikini with her tits nearly hanging out. Needless to say I immediately “unfriended” my dad and I am now left feeling dirty and angry.
Now, I know to most of you, perhaps the thought of some old dude photo shopping himself next to a sexy actress might be funny. But to me, it is just a reminder of all the dysfunction I have had to deal with my entire life, and the source to all my hang ups. I spent the last two years not talking to my father, in order to distance myself from his dysfunctions and addictions. I even told him exactly what he had done to bring me to the point of estrangement. He swore up and down how sorry he was, how he knew he “fucked up big time.” how he even went to confession and “cried” to the priest. He kept insisting that he’s changed. Funny how one click on a stupid facebook page can prove he’s full of shit.
Some things never change. Big surprise.
