A leopard can’t change it’s spots

My dad has been stalking me via facebook for months now. He keeps sending me friend requests and I keep rejecting it. Totally not taking the hint, he sends me an e-mail today letting me know he sent me a friend request and that I should accept it. I’m not sure what possessed me to do it, but I finally just said ” ahh screw it, whatever” and I accepted. I suppose I figured we have been on civil terms as of late, what’s so wrong about a silly friend request on a silly social networking site?

No sooner did I accept the request and go to his profile, that I was reminded exactly why I had spent the last two years not speaking to him. Right there on his page was a photo shopped picture of him next to a picture of Mena Suvari, clad in a skimpy bikini with her tits nearly hanging out. Needless to say I immediately “unfriended” my dad and I am now left feeling dirty and angry.

Now, I know to most of you, perhaps the thought of some old dude photo shopping himself next to a sexy actress might be funny. But to me, it is just a reminder of all the dysfunction I have had to deal with my entire life, and the source to all my hang ups. I spent the last two years not talking to my father, in order to distance myself from his dysfunctions and addictions. I even told him exactly what he had done to bring me to the point of estrangement. He swore up and down how sorry he was, how he knew he “fucked up big time.” how he even went to confession and “cried” to the priest. He kept insisting that he’s changed. Funny how one click on a stupid facebook page can prove he’s full of shit.

Some things never change. Big surprise.

The Artist is Present, But I’m Not: A response to Marina Abramović’s MoMA exhibit

This past weekend my friends and I went into the city to see the Tim Burton exhibit at the MoMA ( Museum of Modern Art). While the exhibit was all I had hoped it would be, it was not the show stopper of the day. There was another exhibit that seemed to haunt me long after we had left the museum and started downing three dollar margaritas at Mother Burger ( at the corner of 49th and 9th, go check it out!). The exhibit was titled The Artist is Present, brought to you by the apparently “prolific”, Marina Abramović . I didn’t know much about the exhibit ( except that there were live nude models being used for some of the pieces), but from what I had heard about it, it didn’t really seem like something I would be into viewing. After getting a taste of the exhibit on my way up to the Tim Burton section, I was POSITIVE I would not be interested in viewing the rest of it.

As we were making our way up to the fifth floor, we realized there was a “performance” of sorts going on in one of the entryways. Spectators were watching a stoic looking woman draped in a plush crimson robe, sitting in a chair in front of a table. On the opposite side of the table was another woman dressed in everyday clothing staring back at her. That’s it.
As it turns out, the woman in the robe was Marina Abramović and the other woman was a fellow museum patron who had signed up to be apart of the “interactive” performance piece. I remember standing there for a moment, watching these two have a staring contest and I felt this overwhelming sense of irritation ( possibly anger?) because I just didn’t “get” it. Which made me feel stupid, especially when I glanced around to see other spectators sketching, writing, and discussing what they were viewing in hushed tones. I felt like some very obvious message had just flown over my head. I had the sudden urge to jump on that table, yank Marina by her braid and scream at her, ” WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS!?”. I wanted to slap her sullen face and tell her to stop taking herself so seriously. I wanted to know what made her sitting in a chair so fucking brilliant. If I were to sit in a chair all day, the only response I would get would be a kick in the ass and a yell to get back to work. As I stood there, watching this thing that was clearly beyond my comprehension, I was reminded of the ” Tampons in teacups” scene from Ghost World. This only irritated me more.

Later on, after we had seen the Tim Burton section, we came across the entrance of Marina’s exhibit. My friend’s and boyfriend, having their curiosity piqued decided to check it out. I chose to stay behind. And no, it had nothing to do with the use of nude models. I have no problem with that. What I did, and do have a problem with is not understanding what the fuck is going on. There is nothing that I hate more, than feeling stupid. Now, most people would say, the only way to understand something is to experience it, to investigate it. 99% of the time that is true. But not this time, at least not for me. I knew if I stepped through that entryway, I would be confronted by various forms of “staring contests” that I just wouldn’t “get”. As it turns out, I was right.

When my boyfriend came out, he asked me to step over to the entryway, where a television screen was displayed. On the screen was a video of Marina violently combing her hair. I’m sorry, but for lack of a better response, all I could think of was WHAT THE FUCK?!. What is so “artistic” about watching someone bash their head in with a comb? It’s nothing that I couldn’t do,( god know’s I already have pulled masochistic shit like that…)
My boyfriend will argue that that’s precisely the point. That it’s art because the artist made it so and that everyone is an artist whether they know it or not. Call me narrow-minded in the world of creativity, but I need to be able to wrap my head around it in order to enjoy it as artistic expression. Now, I am aware that this is merely my opinion and I have no authority over anything when it comes to the art world. Marina Abramović is an artist because she says she is, her work just happens to make me feel so offensively simple-minded that my only reaction to it is to get angry. Because goddamn it, I’m not an idiot, why the fuck can’t I “get” it?

Perhaps that was Marina Abramovic’s point all along. Art is meant to evoke a response right? My response was to feel angry and frustrated. The artist was present whether I wanted her to be or not. My anger altered the experience of the art, thus making me part of the art, thus making me the artist as well. Perhaps I was more present than I realized.

It still irritated the fuck out of me.

shutter island needs bobby miller

yes it was creepy and freaky and suspenseful ( though i’m not sure that means anything coming from me ‘cause i scare VERY easily) my problem with this movie is that when you take away the creep factor, it is very similar to three other movies i have seen in recent years. i knew the ending long before it happened and was disappointed when i turned out to be right. i am so sick of recycled movies ( there are a few remakes i have liked or will see but not many) doesn’t anyone have any new shit out there? I know, I know, “there are no original ideas…” fuck that, that’s an excuse for laziness, even if the idea isn’t original you could at least try twist it up a bit.

Anyone who knows/follows Bobby Miller knows about his short film TUB which made it all the fucking way to Sundance. I haven’t seen it yet but it’s about this guy that jerks off in his shower and ends up impregnating his tub. You can’t tell me that has already been done!

so much for guilty pleasures…

I have decided i am going to try very hard to stay away from celebrity themed news reports. as much as I’d like to say i don’t give a shit about them, somehow when “breaking news” hits I am sucked into the vortex of irrelevant celebrity gossip. I’m sick of reading about who’s dating who, who’s fighting with who, who made some “controversial” statement and now needs to apologize, i can’t fit anymore of it into my brain because every time i do, i feel like a part of me is getting dumber and dumber. sure it’s been a guilty pleasure, but it needs to stop. now. so this is my late new years resolution of sorts. I’m done with TMZ, Perez Hilton, I’m done with glancing through all those gossip mags while I’m waiting on line at whatever store I happen to be with. I’m going to invest more time knowing about what’s going on in the lives of my friends and family rather than people I will never know.

and they’re off

my apartment is so fucking hot right now, even with the windows open it feels claustrophobic, i feel like I’m trapped in my own skin, i have major writers block, to the point where i want to throw away everything i have written up to this point because it’s all stupid and will never get finished anyway and i hate feeling like i can’t express myself correctly, like lately when i try, it all comes out wrong and then i feel stupid andinadequate and i feel like an asshole for thinking i could god forbid be successful at something and maybe it’s the ambien talking but i feel like i could crawl out of my skin right now and just stop being me for a second, its not that i have it so hard, i mean yeah in comparison to some people i do have it hard considering all my fucked up mommy daddy issues and insomnia and ptsd and what not, but then again i could be in Haiti or I could be the 60 year old barista at the Starbucks down the block who works three jobs and will never retire and who never married and is well past the age of having children, so why the fuck am i complaining about anything? i have someone who loves me and we’re happy, as a couple we’re happy, but me as an individual, not so much, isn’t funny how you can be totally miserable as a person, but when you’re with someone who loves you with or without the misery everything seems a little better? not completely but just enough to make you think that things aren’t so bad, at least until it’s just you and your thoughts again, the thoughts that tell you you’re ugly and worthless and useless and that you mother never loved you and that maybe evenben, or whoever your with doesn’t love you that it’s all just an act, which really doesn’t make any sense, why would some one pretend to love you, especially when you have nothing to offer them that they could benefit from ( with the exception of loving them back of course) these are the thoughts that keep me up at night and spark most of our arguments. he hates that i don’t trust him, and i hate that i don’t too, he’s never given me reason not to trust him, i suppose it was just something i was born with, its in my genes, everyone is out to harm you so watch out. and that’s what i do and it drives people away, i couldn’t even trust that this kid on the street was really in trouble, i almost ignored someone in need because i thought they were trying to rip me off, what the fuck is wrong with me? I’m addicted to sleeping pills, to the point where they don’teven really work anymore and it’s like holy shit am i about to get all heath ledger up in here? i don’t even know what I’m saying anymore i just need to bang my fingers on the keyboard because i have all this energy that’s not going away and what i really want to do is sleep but i cant, even if i was tired i don’t want to go to sleep because i keep having nightmares of holes in my skin and its oozing yellow chunks of i have no idea what and i pull open the hole even more to see whats inside me and its all my organs but there’s no blood, I’m all dried up and my organs are dehydrated and no matter how much water i pour into the hole it isn’t enough and then i start to die until i wake up and it’s really fucking crazy and I’m sure this isn’t making any sense i have no idea why i started this in the first place, except to complain about how fucking hot it is in my apartment, and how the heat agitates me and makes me want to scream, i feel likeI’m suffocating, and I’m sure no one is reading this anyway as it would fall under the TLDR category but whatever fuck you then, i don’t do this for your benefit anyway, though that fact that i am addressing “you” may suggest that there is this part of me that wants you to read all of this ridiculousness…

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    tampons in teacups

i hate art snobs. i hate it when someone puts something out there as an expression of themselves, or an expression of nothing and it gets snubbed because it doesn’t fit into a certain criteria, uh… I thought the beauty of art was that it has no rules, it’s relative, it’s open ended, it’s whatever you want it to be and whatever you don’t want it to be, it’s something different to every person that views it. So you went to fucking art school, that just tells me you paid thousands of dollars to learn how to color outside the lines ( mind you this is not directed towards all art students just the ones that hold the false belief that in being an art student they are now part of some cultured elite that decides what is considered expression and what is not) shut the fuck up and get back to paying off your student loans or sell your soul to corporate advertising. now excuse me i have to finish my toe nail clipping mosaic.

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